A Bent Fork in the Trail

I haven’t wiped out on a bike since I was about 11-years-old, and was doing something stupid. As of today, I can’t say that anymore. I went for a ride with my friend, Marc, an expert mountain biker. I learned something about Marc. And I learned something about myself.

The trail we rode today was what Marc calls a “technical” trail. That means there are lots of twists and turns through very narrow passages in the woods. It means that tires can get caught in crevasses, handlebars can get hooked on trees, and bodies can fall off of bikes. Let’s just say this is the first time in my life I really needed a helmet. I fell off of my bike three times, one of which was a “header” into roots and stones.

As I write this, I’ve got a cut and two bad scrapes on one leg; a bruise on the other leg; a cut on my finger; a sore shoulder; a small headache; a scrape on my neck; and a sore sternum (which is a recurrence of an “old football injury”…no lie!). And that’s just my body.

That wipeout wasn’t too kind to my bike, either. It seems I may have bent the front fork. Marc said, “That’s pretty impressive.” I was proud. Then we finished the rest of the loop, which concluded with an uphill climb so steep that I felt every last one of my 47 years. But because my fork was bent, I couldn’t go on anymore. So Marc went and rode with a friend of his we had passed on the trail. I went home to nurse my wounds.

Here’s what I learned about Marc: Marc models the kind of leader, the kind of pastor, the kind of friend I would like to be. As we started, Marc said, “If at anytime you need me to slow down, just let me know. I have no problem doing so.” He put me, the amateur, at ease, and made me feel comfortable. I don’t know how much he was keeping it slow for me, but I seemed to be able to stay with him pretty well.

Not only that, but Marc was out ahead of me, vocally warning me about muddy spots, sharp turns, and narrow passages. I found out how nice it is having someone out in front leading and guiding the way. He even taught me things I had never known about being a good mountain biker. They are skills I hope to use again soon to improve my rides.

Marc was also able to temporarily fix my bike well enough so that I could finish the trail. A leader that has knowledge and technical skill is a true blessing. When things go wrong and broken stuff gets easily fixed (temporary or not), it keeps everything moving toward the goal of the finish line.

A good leader, a good pastor, a good friend, puts people at ease; goes out ahead to guide the way, warn of danger, and improve skill; and, to the best of his ability, keeps things moving toward the goal. That’s the kind of person I want to be. It’s the kind of person Marc is.

Here’s what I learned about myself: After Marc left to ride with his friend, I sat in the car and took stock of all of my injuries, my broken bike, and my wounded ego. I deduced that everything was OK. Then, before I even left the parking lot, I decided that I wanted to ride the trail again. Soon.

That trail will not conquer me. I want to improve my skill. I have the deep desire to improve. I want to one day lead someone else through those trails. I want to be able to feel the accomplishment of successfully finishing without falling. And I’d like, one day, to help someone else accomplish that, as well. Something deep inside of me is screaming: “Never say die!”

I want to adopt that attitude for my personal life, my professional life, and in my vocation as a pastor.

What have you experienced lately that has shaped the way you work, or lead, or live?  Please let me know. I’d love to learn from it, too.

Now…excuse me while I go take my bike into the shop.

Third Grade Heaven

The other day our third grade teacher asked me to spend some time with her class, because they had some questions about heaven. I don’t consider myself an expert on “heaven,” but I suppose in third grade eyes, I’m about as close as one can get to knowing at least a little about the topic.  So they submitted some very thought-provoking questions to me before I walked into the classroom.

Today’s third graders want to know some interesting things about heaven. They want to know who they’ll see there.  They want to know how old they’ll be and what their body will be like.  They want to know what the place will look like.  They want to know if there will be toys, video games, and time to play.  They even want to know if you’ll be able to have lions for pets in heaven!

Here are some of the questions to which I answered “yes.”

  • Will we see people who die before us?  (Those who die in the faith!)
  • Will I still be me? (I don’t think you’ll be anyone else…)
  • Will we see Moses, Joseph, Adam, and Eve?  (Heaven is filled with all kinds of wonderful people!)
  • Will heaven be fun?  (If it ain’t fun, I don’t know what is!)
  • Is Jesus going to be there?  (He’ll be the Center of it all…scars and all.)
  • Can you talk in heaven?  (If you can sing, you can certainly talk.)
  • Do you celebrate when you go to heaven?  (What greater thing is there to celebrate?)
  • Can we eat in heaven?  (…I sure HOPE so!…)
  • Can we give things to people?  (I think that is one of the glories of heaven: everyone will be generous and giving.)

Here are some of the questions to which I answered “no.”

  • Does hell have fire?  (It’s got something worse than fire: total separation from God)
  • Is heaven made of gold?  (The Bible uses that image to help our human minds know just how great it will be.)
  • Are we going to be dead in heaven?  (You will be more alive than you are right now.)
  • Will we be able to see the devil?  (He will never be seen or heard from again.)
  • In heaven can you have kids?  (Matthew 22:30)

Here are some of the questions to which I answered “I don’t know.”

  • What kind of body will I have?  (All I know is that Jesus’ new body could pass through walls; ours too?)
  • How old will I be in heaven?  (The ideal age?)
  • What are we going to do?  (I’m pretty sure we’ll enjoy even more the gifts and talents we already have.)
  • Can you have a lion for a pet?  (The lion will lie down with the lamb…why not with the child?)
  • Can you do anything you want in heaven?  (Within godly reason; we’re not going to be playing harps, folks.)
  • Can we play video games?  (They’ll probably be high def, 3-D, interactive, and so real they’ll be surreal.)

And one more, just for good measure:

  • Will you like the name that you get?

What insights did you learn from these 3rd grade questions?  What questions about heaven do you have?  What do you think it will be like?

Corpus Electronici

I’ve been thinking a great deal lately about community. It started when Dr. John Oberdeck was a guest preacher for me a couple of weeks ago.  After the service, we both walked down the aisle, stood at the back, and greeted those who were filing out of church.  Suddenly there was a gap in the line.  We both looked back into the church and John said to me, “Now that’s community!”

We had to wait a while before we were able to greet the rest of the congregation. There they were, spread out all around the church in delightful small groups (not cliques!), talking to each other, hugging, laughing, listening, greeting, caring, and catching up.  We were happy to wait.

As I looked at that beautiful scene, I was proud of the way Mt. Calvary cares. I was thankful for the way Mt. Calvary welcomes.  I was awed by the way Mt. Calvary embraces diversity.  People have told me they feel welcome at our church.  I’m glad, because it’s something we intentionally build into our culture, and is something that no church ought to be without.

We’ve got a great start, but there’s still plenty of room to grow.

St. Paul compares the church with a body. In Latin, as you know, the word for body is corpus. We would love more people to enjoy the corpus at Mt. Calvary, so we are encouraging current members to use new and different ways to share the Word and draw people in.  I’m calling it Corpus Electronici.

I have been amazed at the way in which Facebook, Twitter, Blogs, and other electronic media have brought me back into community with some, into new community with others, and make me encouraged that the corpus of Christ will be built up by these tools that are literally changing the world.

Here’s how Electronci has helped me:

  • I have reconnected with people from my class in high school whom I literally haven’t seen since we walked the stage at graduation.
  • I have been brought back into close contact with my cousins and other distant and not-so-distant family members; and our respective kids are getting to know each other, as well.
  • I have been able to learn much more about the Facebooker’s in my congregation, enabling me to serve them better and be a more astute preacher.
  • I follow people on Twitter that inspire me, encourage me, make me think, enhance my creativity, give me ideas, and give me new insights into the Word.
  • I have learned about things going on in the classrooms of our day school which I would have otherwise never known.
  • I have discovered blogs that have strengthened my faith, made me laugh, and got me to do some things I may have never tried.

The best thing about all of this is that, contrary to popular belief, this isn’t only relating to people in front of a screen. All of these tools have led to face to face, in the flesh, connecting, re-connecting, lunches, dinners, and conferences that have shown me personally the way in which electronici often leads to true corpus.

Now…to encourage the people of Mt. Calvary, and other churches, that these really are incredible tools in which God’s Word and relationships with others lead to community in Christ.

Have you discovered ways in which the Corpus Electronici has brought you into new or better relationships with others?  Please let me know how.  I’d love to share your ideas.

Support Mrs. Rev.

Somebody found my blog today by searching Google with this phrase: “need ideas to make pastor wife feel appreciated.”   I don’t know how they got to my blog…but it’s a good request!

Now I’m not a pastor’s wife. But I know a pastor’s wife pretty well, and I think I can tell you some ways to make a pastor’s wife feel appreciated.

  1. Support Her Husband. Nothing makes the life of a pastor’s wife easier and more enjoyable than a happy, well-respected, super-supported husband.  When you support him, you are supporting her.
  2. Lower Expectations. Make it known to her in no uncertain terms that she is not expected to be chair of the ladies guild, an altar helper, or a Sunday School teacher.  If those are her gifts and she chooses to serve in one or more of those ways, thank her as you would anyone else.  But make certain that it is not an iron-clad expectation.
  3. Don’t Leave Her Out. It has become in vogue to dedicate the month of October as “Clergy Appreciation Month.”  How about recognizing his wife during that month, too.  You could also send her flowers, a card, or a gift certificate “just because” you appreciate all the many ways she supports both her husband and the church.
  4. Give Her the Gift of Time. See to it that the pastor’s wife gets time with her husband.  It could be on his regular “day off,” or even for a weekend getaway.  If the couple has children, volunteer to babysit on regular occasions.
  5. Let Her Be Her.  Please don’t try to fit her into your mold.  Allow her to show and to share her own personality, gifts, and talents, in the way that she feels best…not in the way the congregation feels she should.

Do you have any other ideas?  Let me know by way of “comment,” and I will pass them on.

Salute the Admiral

Me, Pastor Kuhn, and my wife, Tammy

Please believe me when I say that this is not going to be a “death” blog. I’m not going to keep posting about those in my life who have entered the next life.  However, it would be wrong for me to miss putting up a post about one of the greatest influences of my life, who died last Friday:

The way the education of a pastor in the Lutheran Church — Missouri Synod works is to get a B.A. degree, and then move on to seminary for four years. The first two years are spent on campus, in class.  The third year is a “real world” internship as “vicar” serving with an established pastor at a congregation somewhere in the United States.  Then the student goes back to the seminary for one final year of class work before graduating and becoming a “full-fledged” pastor.

My vicarage was done near our nation’s capitol in Falls Church, Virginia, under The Rev. Gerald Kuhn, who had been the pastor of that congregation from about the time it was approximately a year old. Pastor Kuhn had risen to the rank of Rear Admiral as a Navy Chaplain.  He was the best you could ask for in a vicarage supervisor:  laid back; ready to allow you to “test your wings”; providing plenty of freedom; and making sure you learned and had fun for a year in our nation’s capitol.

Pastor Kuhn died last Friday. He was a great man of God, a unique character, and a precious friend.  I got to see him last fall, and I am so glad that I did.  With this post, I “salute” the Admiral for the things he taught me.

  • Stay for a while.  Pastor Kuhn was the Pastor at St. Paul’s in Falls Church, Virginia, for well over thirty years.  He retired from there.  He proved that a long ministry bears much fruit, builds better relationships, and accomplishes much more than a short ministry ever could.
  • Advocate for the community.  St. Paul’s had an “education building” that was originally intended to be for a day school that never panned out.  So Pastor Kuhn decided that it ought to be open to anyone and everyone in the community who had a need for space.  There were AA groups, AlAnon groups, TOPS groups, Exercise groups, Bible Study Groups, and groups that simply needed the space for a meeting or community dinner.  That attitude provided a great connection between the church and the community for many years.
  • Lead by example.  One day I walked into the church and Pastor Kuhn was vacuuming the entryway of the church.  We had a very good janitor at the time, but with Pastork Kuhn everything had to be “ship shape” (pardon the pun).  No job was below him.  He did what needed to be done, and he never complained that “it wasn’t his job.”
  • Understand you’re part of something bigger.  Pastor Kuhn insisted that everyone who became a member of the church should automatically receive the monthly official publication of our church, directly in the mail.  He told me that no matter what organization you join you receive the official publication.  How much more in the church. Today, every member of my congregation automatically receives that same publication.
  • Take the long view.  In the one year I spent with him, there were ups and downs as only there can be in a local church.  But I never saw Pastor Kuhn lose his cool…even when a member went into his office and yelled and screamed for a half an hour.  There may be minor crises from one day to the next, but in the long run it’s all part of ministry, and it all has a purpose.  I learned from him to “take the long view” and “keep my cool” when the chips seem down.
  • English is important.  Every week I had to submit my sermon to Pastor Kuhn so that he could “approve” it.  He usually had no problem with the theology of the sermon.  If he had any problem it was with grammar or English usage.  He felt that getting your point across could be done most effectively if you used proper English.

One more thing: while I was there that year, Pastor Kuhn made me take a “quiz” on the history of Virginia, and he gave me some Confederate money that I still have to this day.  He made sure that every vicar who went through St. Paul’s in Falls Church, Virginia, would learn something about the place in which they served.  It was a lot of fun…and I did pretty well on the quiz.  But I learned more than Virginia history.  I learned what it meant to be a great pastor.

Pastor Kuhn will be buried with full military honors at Arlington National Cemetery on July 21st.  Salute the Admiral!